i need to write 2000 words in three hours
i then need to wash my ass for work
ughhhhh im such a shit
I only use it sometimes, tbh. I try to use it every time I reference him or our relationship because of a few reasons: The terms “boyfriend” and “girlfriend,” in my opinion, are a little bit too heteronormative and supportive of the gender binary for me to feel comfortable with.
"Partner" also better explains our relationship, I think. It’s a bit more serious. It’s the most accurate. He’s my partner in every sense of the word.
"Boyfriend" has certain connotations and implications for me personally and for society. I associate “boyfriend” with a role someone plays, on a broad social level and an interpersonal level. I don’t think Ronnie is playing a role, and I’m certainly not, both our “roles” in this relationship are equal.
I also just like the sound of “partner” better? It makes me feel more comfortable with our places in the relationship, it reminds me that this is a mutual decision that we are continuously making and re-making as we grow and learn and fall in love again each time.
what the fuck is up with my professors giving super vague assignments this semester? is this growing up?!
I want to be really clear here…
When you perpetuate the idea that trans women retain male privilege you are saying that their socialization was not damaging to them; that they were not and are not oppressed; that they are always masculine and present their masculinity the same way cis men do; that they are a threat; that they are men who just up and decided one day that they want to be a woman with no pain, struggle, or thought.
You are ignoring the struggles of trans women, you are ignoring their entire lives, just so you can slap you own understanding of their gender and their journey on top of their experiences for the sake of your shitty feminism. Feminism is not some fucking cis woman party club where we talk about how great it fucking was for us to be born in bodies we don’t have to question, feminism is not some space where OUR privileges as cis women suddenly disappear, feminism is not some space for you or yours to shit on women because their lives weren’t lived the same yours was. All women are socialized differently, women of color, trans women, cis women, gay women, bisexual women, asexual women, the list goes on. Don’t fucking penalize the women who weren’t socialized the same way white cis women were just because you lack compassion, understanding, and a bigger heart.
If you don’t understand the fact that every single person with a penis is not socialized the same exact way, you are a cisexist piece of shit. If you seriously try to tell a trans woman that she is not a woman because you somehow fucking think she was “socialized as a man” you are a COMPLETE shit bag who does not understand anything, least of all gender or socialization, and you should really shut the fuck up about everything.
but they’re socialised AS BOYS. how dense can you be? what wonderland did you come from where things aren’t split between BOYS and GIRLS, and the kids with penises get the BOYS things (the good things - male privilege) and the kids without the GIRLS things (the bad things - female oppression)?
you are just denying reality right now. no-one has ever said all males are socialised exactly the same way but they’re all socialised AS MALES. how can you deny that?
seriously what was your childhood like where all boys and girls were treated as equal individuals and not socialised according to their sex???
It is not as simple as “they are socialized as boys!” Not all boys are socialized the same way, first of all, and people who are questioning their gender or are trans* are certainly not socialized the same way cis men would be.
There is no “male socialization” button that someone presses to socialize all people with a penis.
If they do not present in an acceptable male fashion, if they do not display the acceptable amount of masculinity, if they are too feminine, if they are too this, if they are too that, they will not be socialized the same way cis men are, and to say otherwise is TO BE A STUPID, IGNORANT FUCK. NO LGBTQA* MEN OR TRANS WOMEN ARE SOCIALIZED THE SAME WAY CIS MEN ARE. Are you really telling me being harassed and being misgendered and being criticized and invalidated is the same thing as growing up with male privilege and sunshine being constantly blown up your ass by society? Are you really trying to tell me right now that the systematic erasure, oppression, and dehumanization of trans women equates to privilege in your tiny transphobic mind? What you are saying when you say shit like “trans women are socialized as men so they shouldn’t be allowed in feminist spaces” is that you a: do not have a firm grasp on the concept of gender and it’s fluidity, b: are so painfully dense that you cannot understand that just because you have a penis it does not mean you were privileged the SAME WAY MEN ARE.
What goddamn childhood were you living in where you ignored the fact that ridicule is the WORST and ostracization is the WORST and privilege is the LOWEST for people who are gender nonconforming? Matter of fucking fact, what planet did you grow up on where the gender binary didn’t constantly force people into depression and suicide and dysphoria?
Do not fucking reblog this from me again until you have read this until you get it. I don’t care if it takes fifty years. Read this until you get it, and take a fucking gender studies course while you’re at it, since you seem to need everything broken down like a fucking freshman undergrad anyway.
And for christs sake, if you say something to me about this just attacking you and being rude I’m going to dismiss you as a whining, crying, shitting infant.
so im reading the other reviews by the kids in my juvenile delinquency class…all of whom are seniors…and like…damn how did they make it to their senior year…i just